What is real?

I woke up this morning with an interesting idea playing through my mind. It’s become a habit when that happens to come to my computer and see what wants to come out and onto the paper, so here I sit.

We live in a world full of things that aren’t real. Fake hair, fake boobs, fake sentiments – even fake food – and at times it can be hard to discern who and what is genuine and can be trusted. In my experience, it seems that fake things nearly always have a way of being found out, but usually not until someone is hurt badly enough to start squawking. This is precisely why I don’t lie and why I’m only willing to provide products and services I believe to have true value.

When I came into this world, it wasn’t very long before they realized that I wasn’t completely “healthy”. Fortunately, that didn’t mean anything immediately life threatening. It meant that I was allergic to many, many things. Not an intolerance that might upset your tummy or cause the sniffles, but the kind that could actually cause a person to die (you know, the real allergic).

The end result created a lot more work for my family to keep me alive because I could not consume processed foods and most store-bought products. Our bread was baked at home, our meat was grain fed and bought at a very specific butcher shop, and you should have seen the garden and the canning we did during the year and stored in the basement. Jams, relishes, fruits and vegetables, chili sauce, and pickles…Yum yum…

When I picture those shelves now, I realize how much love went into all that work and I would like to thank my family for going above and beyond to keep me alive. Had they not made the sacrifices they did and put in all of the extra work that went into making sure things were safe for me, I would likely not be sitting here writing this message. I cannot express my gratitude for your efforts. Thank you!

Fortunately, they made the decision to move the family to a cleaner air environment when I was 7 and in short order, many of my allergies cleared up to the point that if they were still present, they were more of the “intolerance” category that might make you feel rotten for a while.

I met a lady I know recently at a Tim Horton’s and she expressed how much she appreciates my “real-ness”. She knows that I will understand whatever she may need to say in a very real way – because in a lot of cases, I’ve been there and am not afraid or ashamed to share that. She is not the first to have expressed that kind of sentiment and it always strikes me funny to have a person thank me for being who I am. The truth of the matter is that I’ve never really been very good at being anything other than myself. I’ve tried a few times and every time has produced very uncomfortable results. You see, I’m just not a very good liar and when asked, you can pretty much count on my sharing what I believe to be true – I’ve been working at doing that only when asked. LOL

So some things for you to consider – What would this world be like if being genuine were not anything out of the ordinary? What would change in your life if you chose to simply show up as you? Nothing more, nothing less, just who you be. What kind of impact would you have on the people you meet and on the world? What if, by being your genuine self, you made it ok for others to do the same? Is it possible that could create more “real-ness” in our world? Is it possible that could create more tolerance and understanding and allowance for others to be their genuine selves? Might that be a world in which we didn’t need to fear so many things and where more people treated each other with kindness and love? What would that be like?

The last few years, for many of us, have been a time of reflection and thoughts of change. I challenge you to consider how you show up in this world and if that’s really how you want to be received by others. As Ebenezer Scrooge learns in my favourite holiday story “A Christmas Carol”, as long as we still live and breathe change is possible.

What would you like your world to look like, and how would you like to be received by others? Only you can create that possibility my friend. You just need to be willing to do what is necessary to make that your reality. Are you?

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