Well, we’ve successfully made it through the first month of 2015. How’s it going so far? For me, it’s been a busy month full of work and more work. You may remember that my regular business is bookkeeping, so the beginning of the year is filled with year end activities and deadlines, not to mention stressed out clients who are sometimes quite anxious. And that alone can make for some interesting challenges.
This week, our ingredient to create a blissful life is: Attitude
As I began to write, I found myself thinking about some of the situations that have already presented themselves and how much my attitude and the attitude of the people I’m working with has affected the situation. When I’m well rested and things are going well, I will pretty much always choose to be positive and upbeat no matter what I’m dealing with. Let’s just stay with that for a moment.
Some people may not understand that your attitude is not based on the circumstances you find yourself in or the people you’re dealing with. You may believe that you are ruled by how you “feel” about things and therefore are not fully in control of what you bring to the situation. But what if that’s not true? What if your attitude has nothing to do with how you feel and is absolutely, 100% choice? Consider this. If you find yourself in the position where things are falling apart, you can choose helpless and fall apart too. OR you can look at what’s happening, ask yourself how you’re contributing to it and whether or not that is really going to work for you. If it is, great! If it’s not and you’d like to change it, what can you do?
In case you haven’t been following me or heard me speak yet, please pay attention to this one thing. You are NOT at the mercy of your circumstances. There is ALWAYS a choice – you may not always like the choices that are available, but there is always a choice. Do you live your life or do you just show up and react to whatever is happening around you? Feel the difference between those. When you’re living, what are you creating? When you’re reacting, what are you creating? Which feels nicer for you?
Ok, now let’s get real here because I am not always well rested and things are not always going well. I sometimes get tired and cranky, work too hard, allow situations that make me feel bad… we all do. So what happens when you’re in that space where you’re tired and cranky and someone approaches you the wrong way? Would you believe that it’s still about choice? Whenever you go into a situation honouring yourself first and whenever possible the other people involved, you will rarely lose.
Having said all of that, please be kind to yourself. I’m not so out of touch that I float through life with my head in the clouds. Sometimes, we just have rotten days. That’s ok. Sometimes, your attitude will stink. Sometimes, you may be tired and cranky and not much fun to be around. It’s all ok. What’s important is realizing that you do have a choice. You can look at the glass half empty or half full. You can look at your circumstances and approach them from anger or from love. You can create your life to be happy or sad. It really is up to you.
What do you choose?