This week is another where the subject of my post hits very close to home.
Your 48th Ingredient to Create a Blissful Life is: Well-being
On Saturday, my husband of 15 years moved out. We’ve been sort of separated for several months but still living in the same house and still interacting on a daily basis. I didn’t realize the toll it was taking on me until I felt the relief of the tension leaving my body and felt myself take a very deep breath. We don’t always realize the weight we’re carrying until we can put it down.
So what is well-being? To me, it’s a state of mind and a space where things are good. We’re content, we’re dealing with life well, and there’s almost a sense of peace and calm.
Now, I’ll confess, my life hasn’t typically been what you’d call peaceful and calm but I’m finding that the older I get, the less nonsense I want in my world. Maybe you can relate? So now I’m choosing to surround myself with the people who offer less drama, less stress, more fun, more lightness. I want to be with the people who are easy for me to be with, who “get” me, the ones who see exactly who I am and love me for it.
Also interesting, another old friend has resurfaced in my life. She’s someone who meant a great deal to me when I was young and it’s interesting to see how quickly we fell back into step with each other. We’ve been talking a lot about how much different things are now compared to where we both started out and it’s a great time for me to gain some perspective. We can get so busy striving for what we want that we don’t see how far we’ve come and I think an important part of having a sense of well-being is in taking stock and acknowledging where you’ve come from.
I started my adult life as a single teenaged mother. I was 17 years old, leaving an abusive relationship, still working toward my high school diploma, and living on welfare while I tried to figure out how to do this thing called life. When I remember what that was and compare it to what now looks like, I have SO much to be grateful for. And I have SO much to be proud of.
The truth is that even in the midst of very difficult times, we can still have a sense of well-being if only we will choose it. The older I get, the more confident I become that I can face whatever life throws at me and find my way through it. And with that confidence, I’m able to release the fear and chaos more quickly every time and find my well-being. If you have trouble doing that, try this perspective on for size: You’re still here, still breathing, still upright, still able to function at least enough to be able to read this post. So there’s not a single thing you’ve faced that you haven’t found the strength and the perseverance to conquer. And the truth? The thing that you won’t conquer won’t matter for very long, will it? Haha!
Don’t worry, you’ve got this! Find your sense of well-being and let yourself marinate in that. It’s the space where everything is possible, you’re strong and capable, and every little thing is going to be all right. Oh yeah… now that feels good.
What do you choose?