Hello and welcome to week number 40 of Ingredients to Create a Blissful Life. This week, your ingredient is: Knowing
Some may call this intuition, some a gut feeling, but how many times have you been confronted by a situation where something just didn’t feel right? Or by a person who rubbed you the wrong way? You couldn’t quite put your finger on it, but something inside you knew that something was not quite right about the situation or about the person and set off a reaction in your body to let you know.
This is one of those things that I didn’t really understand for a very long time. I remember when my teenage son made a friend at school and brought him home to hang out. On the surface, he seemed like a nice enough young man. He was clean, well dressed, spoke in complete sentences, but something was simply not quite right. I shared with my son that feeling. Told him I wasn’t sure what it was but something was “off” about this guy. He came to me a few weeks later after something had happened and asked how I always know. That was when he told me that whenever I’ve shared one of those feelings, I’ve always been right. Interesting… I hadn’t actually realized that until he pointed it out.
So think about a time when you’ve walked into a room or interviewed for a job or any other thing and you’ve gotten that feeling. Did you pay attention to it? What were the results of either paying attention to it or ignoring it? I’d be willing to bet that either way, you were proven right weren’t you? You took the job because it seemed to be a perfect fit only to find out that the people you were working with were miserable or impossible to please or maybe even a bit crazy; you made a new friend who stole your money or your car or your lover; you dated someone who seemed fabulous on the surface but cheated on you… We’ve all done it and although we tend to beat ourselves up when these things happen, the truth is that the only thing we really did wrong was not trust ourselves and our instincts.
Now let me ask you this. What could happen if you got really comfortable with not needing to justify your feelings? What could show up for you if you just let yourself “know” the answer regardless of all the arguments we typically make about why that’s silly and doesn’t make any sense? What would it be like to simply trust yourself and never put yourself in a position again where your radar was telling you it was not the right thing for you? You’ve seen the results of not being in the space of trusting yourself, would you be willing to try it the other way?
Like everything else, it’s just a choice. For me, I’ve learned that the price for not listening to my gut is often quite high so I do my best to pay attention now. But maybe you like the excitement of not letting yourself know what you know and what it can create…
What do you choose?