Hi again! August is almost over, in a little over a week, the kids will be back in school and “normal life” will resume for many. There’s a commercial from Staples that always makes me laugh. We got rid of TV a couple of months ago (and I confess, I am LOVING it!!) so I can’t say for sure if it’s still on, but you know the ones they’ve been playing for years. The parents skipping through the aisles buying school supplies for the kids who are going back to school with the Most Wonderful Time of the Year Christmas carol playing in the background. Brilliant marketing!
This week, your ingredient to create a blissful life is: Satisfaction
Now that, is a great word! As you may have noticed, I very rarely use actual definitions of words because I like to focus more on the feelings the words create for me and this is definitely one of those. Imagine how you feel when you’re utterly and completely sated. There is no sense of lack or of want and no thought of need. More of that please!
So what does it take to create satisfaction in your world? Is it a job well done, a happy family, a large bank account? Truth is, in my world, any and all of those things definitely help. But when I’m really, deeply satisfied it’s so much more than that.
I confess, I’ve been known to be something of a worry wart. LOL I still work on this and my latest technique is refusal. I know, sounds odd, but I am staunchly and adamantly refusing to give in to worry! You may remember that we had a VERY expensive day not so long ago. In fact, it took the majority of the funds I had set aside to take care of everything that needed to be taken care of. So, if I focus on that, my worry kicks in and I start to think about how most of what I had is gone, I don’t have very much left, what will happen when the bills come in… and I can very quickly start to spin in circles because I’m looking at the thing that causes worry. The space of “There is NOT enough”.
OR, I can look at my bank account and be incredibly thankful that I had the money available and it wasn’t necessary to take on thousands of dollars in debt to take care of things and know that although it may take me some time, I’ll replenish that and I still have lots of things I can do to make money and lots of things I could sell if I needed to not to mention piles of work on and around my desk as we speak that will be billed out when it’s finished. And of course, there’s always credit available if I need it. And by the way, the account isn’t even completely empty so how great is that?!
In order for me to achieve a level of satisfaction in my world, occupying a space of refusal really helps. How can you be satisfied with anything – relationships, work, home, possessions… – when you allow those other thoughts to steal your peace?
So here’s what I’m going to ask you to try this week. Pick one thing in your life with which you are tremendously satisfied. It really doesn’t matter what it is, all you need is to think about how you feel about that thing and get a really good sense of what that is for you. Now think of something that is exactly the opposite and don’t worry, if it’s something you’re avoiding or not dealing with, that’s even better. When you have it, get a sense of what that feels like. I’m not just talking about your emotions here. I’m also asking you to check in with how your body feels. When you’re thinking of the thing that’s satisfying how does that show up in your body? What about the other?
Once you have a really good sense of this, get into the space of dis-satisfaction and ask yourself this. “What needs to change for me to feel the same way about this as I did about the one that gives me satisfaction?” and here’s one of the hardest parts. DON’T try to figure out the answer. Here’s the thing. Our minds are limited in what they are able to perceive based on what we’ve experienced and what we know. There are millions of possibilities we have no idea are available because we haven’t experienced them yet so when we ask a question like this and leave it open, we create the possibility that something new and unexpected can show up.
Then all you need to do is pay attention to what happens in your world. It might take some time but something will show up. Then it’s up to you whether to grab onto it and act or ignore it. Neither is right, neither is wrong. Both are just a choice. For me? I’ll take creating as much peace and satisfaction in my world as I can find but you can choose whatever you like.
What do you choose?