Hello and welcome back! It amazes me that I wrote my list of subjects for Ingredients to Create a Blissful Life several months ago and yet almost every week as I’ve seen what my topic is, I’ve realized that the subject is very relevant to what’s happening in my world that week. Interesting…
So this week, your ingredient to create a blissful life is: Excitement.
When was the last time you got really excited about something? I have to tell you that excitement has got to be one of my favourite states of being and maybe because of that, it usually doesn’t take very much. LOL
You know the really good kind? Think of kids in the weeks leading up to a big vacation or Christmas morning. Mmmm, now that feels good. Do you feel free to express your excitement or are you concerned what other people might think? If you’re able to jump and squeal and wiggle with excitement, BRAVO! But if you’re like the vast majority of adults I know, that doesn’t exactly describe you. So I’m going to ask you to consider a few things. Ready?
I don’t have an answer for this, but I find myself wondering at what point we are no longer supposed to express ourselves? I see all of these signs “Keep Calm and…” and wonder what’s so great about keeping calm? I suppose in an emergency situation not losing your head is probably a good thing, but we’ve taken it much farther than that. Not expressing our emotions is rarely, if ever, good for us and we know this because there are studies and papers and articles everywhere. I suspect that someone, at some point, decided that being a responsible adult meant that one must behave in a serious manner.
I’m wracking my brain right now trying to think of how that was communicated to me and I really can’t think of anything specific. Perhaps it’s one of those things that is never really said but we pick it up from watching the grown ups… I can’t be sure but somewhere along the line in my life and in the lives of many of the people I know, this is the message we received. I don’t even really have a concept of why it’s bad to be silly… funny thing.
For me, when I started to realize that being responsible and being silly weren’t mutually exclusive, things shifted dramatically. Something happened and I was just so excited that I couldn’t stop myself from giggling and wiggling and dancing and being completely joyful. And it felt AMAZING! Were people looking at me funny? Yes, but I simply did not care because I was so focused on feeling good that nothing and nobody mattered who wasn’t going to share in that with me. It was like the cork had popped and I was simply overflowing with effervescent, beautiful, silly, gleeful bliss. What a day that was!
Here’s the thing. Joy and excitement are contagious and when we are able to get out of our heads long enough to drop our judgments and realize how beautiful that space is, we can share that with the world. Would you rather spend your time with someone who is very serious and very responsible or someone who’s joyful and silly and still gets the job done? Marianne Williamson wrote a very famous speech that talks about our greatest fear being not our darkness, but our light. She shares that when we allow ourselves to be our brilliant, beautiful selves, we create a space where others are allowed to do the same. Yummy!
Think of a person you know who shares their excitement openly. Consider who they are and how you feel about and perceive them. If you believe they’re foolish, you may really need this more than anyone else. If you look at them with envy, there’s some hope for you. But if you are able to jump in with them and enjoy yourself too, you are on the right track. We all have responsibilities, we all have chores and projects and people who depend on us. The question I’m asking is this: Why does that mean we can’t have boatloads of fun at the same time? Can you imagine a world where people play instead of complaining? Where there’s so much abundance that no one needs to worry about anything?
The last couple of weeks, I’ve spent a lot of time on this idea of lack vs. abundance with my groups. Do you realize that humans are the only species on the planet that waste our energy worrying about whether or not we’ll have enough? We are the only creatures who hoard and take far more than we could ever use? (And please don’t interpret this to mean that I’m telling you not to save or be prepared. I am not saying that we shouldn’t be responsible.) Other animals and plant life don’t spend their time questioning their existence the way we do and that’s not all bad because if we didn’t, no one would come up with ideas to make things easier, but we often take this to an extreme that actually paralyzes us and stops us from being able to enjoy the fact that we do exist.
So let me ask you this. Have you ever not had what you needed? Ever, really? We live in a world where there is SUCH abundance but we believe somehow that we are required to do everything for ourselves. That’s where worry starts and worry kills excitement. What could change in your world if for just 3 days you occupied a space of complete and utter belief that you have everything you need and will always have everything you need? Where what you have doesn’t matter as much as the fact that you have it? Where no matter what happens, help will always be available so there is absolutely NO need to worry? Go ahead and try it and let me know what happens!
So what do you have to get excited about? Well, you woke up this morning didn’t you? Do you have work that pays the bills so you will have what you need? Do you have a comfortable place to lay your head and people to love? Those are great places to start! If you’ve ever had a dog, think about what happens when you come home. They are absolutely thrilled to see you! What could change in your relationships if you met your loved ones at the door with even one tenth that excitement? What could change if you put one tenth of that excitement into your job or planning for your future or any other part of your life? Why not try it and see? Worst case scenario, you’re no worse off than you are right now and you may have had a bit of fun. Best case scenario? More joy, more giggling, more fun, and more bliss. I’ll have some more of that please!
What do you choose?