Wow! With this post, we’ve officially reached the half-way point for 2015. I suppose our subject this week might be very appropriate then. Funny how that happens… LOL
Our 26th Ingredient to Create a Blissful Life is: Accomplish
How does it feel to accomplish something? I’ll be honest (because that’s really all I know how to be anymore LOL) and tell you that I’ve really been struggling with this piece for the last year or so. I don’t know if it’s some weird and wonky type of energy or what exactly, but motivation has been hard to come by to say the least. I’m generally not a procrastinator but sometimes I just get “stuck” and I’ve been spending a lot more time in that space than I care to admit.
The last little while has involved some rather huge shifts and has shaken things up quite a lot. Not easy, but the upside is that several of the projects that I’d been ignoring (read “trying to forget I took on in the first place”) have surfaced and I’m happy to say that I’ve actually been chipping away at what felt like a massive pile of work and have been slowly but surely digging myself out. The really great thing when this happens for me is that I start to feel lighter and lighter and lighter. Yesterday, I made a huge dent in one of the last projects I have and I’m hoping to finish it today. There will be couriers called to return files where I haven’t heard from the person for extended periods of time, probably some filing, and I believe a lovely dinner over the weekend to celebrate.
Here’s the thing. When we procrastinate and allow things to accumulate and pile up, the energy flow slows because it’s like a traffic jam. There are things in the way so it can’t flow freely and smoothly. Makes sense, right? How does that show up in your life? For me, it means that I have more and more trouble getting on task. And how does that feel? Frustrating… and then those little voices start that say that I’m a disappointment, bad, wrong… YUCK!!!
When we start to chip away at it – and sometimes, that’s the hardest part – slowly but surely, the energy starts flowing more and more and more. And it’s really the only way to shut up those nasty little gremlins that whisper in our ears. Get started, and piece by piece, accomplish a little bit more each day and it’s surprising how quickly it gets done.
So how does this show up in your life? Do you have gremlins that whisper unkind things into your ears too? Here’s an exercise I’ve been using with my groups and working on using in my own world too. The next time those gremlins come calling, try this (and if you do, I’d love to hear how you make out). First step is just in recognizing what you’re doing. Second step is to make the choice to STOP. And the last step is to ask yourself this question, “If someone I loved showed up and told me this exact story – they’ve done exactly what I’ve done here – would I look at them with eyes of judgment and think how much of an idiot they are, or would I treat them with understanding and compassion?” This one simple question can be a real game changer. How is it ok to treat yourself with any less care than you would give to anyone else? Do we not deserve to give ourselves at least as much love and care as we would anyone else?
Here’s a very simple truth. We have one relationship that will be with us from birth to grave. Parents eventually die, siblings move on and live their own lives. Spouses may or may not remain in our lives, and children certainly grow up and our sincerest hope is that they will learn to soar like eagles. Even friends come and go. The ONLY relationship we are guaranteed to have from the time we arrive on this planet until the time we leave it is with ourselves. And yet the vast majority of us never even consider that idea, let alone that we deserve to treat ourselves with as much respect and love as we do the other people in our lives.
Would you like to change that? It may not be the easiest thing you’ve ever done, but I can promise you it’s worth it! First step is just to choose it. Then all you need to do is start making yourself a priority in your life. And if you need help, ask for it.
One of my beautiful clients said last week that she’s trying really hard but hasn’t yet been able to look at herself with love. Another beautiful client in that same group said, “You know the amazing part of what you just said? Yet.” And isn’t it amazing? She may not have found it yet, but somehow, we’ve managed to foster a belief that not only is it possible, if she keeps working toward that she will get there. And oh… I can hear the angels singing.
So… whatever it is you’re not doing or not facing, I have some great news for you. You still have 6 months left in 2015 to get started, and that’s just this year. It is never too late! As long as we are still drawing breath, we can choose at any moment to start to work toward whatever our “not yet” may be. Or not. Where do you sit on that? I’d love to hear your thoughts, challenges, ideas. But most of all, I’d like to hear…
What do you choose?