We’re almost to the end of April, can you imagine? Sun is starting to shine, plants are poking out of the soil, and the birds are singing. Ahhhh, music to my ears after a long winter. I went for a walk in my favourite park yesterday. It was absolutely wonderful to listen to the birds – geese, and ducks, and red winged blackbirds. I think I even heard a cardinal. Fresh air, a bit of exercise, and being in nature. Now that’s a recipe for some happy thoughts!
This week, your ingredient is: Mindset
I hear so many people talking about mindset lately. Positive thinking, manifesting, mindfulness, and SO many other things like that. I don’t know exactly where you land on the subject, but I believe it does make a difference.
Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” How have you seen that play out in your life? I can tell you it’s been true for me many times. If you’ve followed me at all, you know that I became a mother at 17. Prior to that, I had been a good student and seemed to be headed down a bright path. Then at around 15, something happened and the wheels came off. I guess my rebellion came a bit late and when it did, BOOM! The lid blew right off and I started making some pretty dangerous choices that ultimately changed my entire life, and thank God for that!
Would I change it? Absolutely not! I believe that every child is a gift, and I especially believe that my amazing son is. In fact, I believe having someone besides myself to take care of gave me what I needed to start to get things back on track. But here’s the thing – people told me I’d screwed up and ruined my life, and I believed them. So for the next 2 decades (yes, that’s 20 YEARS!), I believed that I was a screw up and that I’d ruined my life and what did I get for it? Absolutely nothing worked out for me. I bounced from job to job, school to school, always hoping and praying that somehow I’d be forgiven and earn some type of salvation.
Eventually, I started working with some people who encouraged me to work on personal development and I started to read and listen to a lot of brilliant people’s thoughts, and those caused me to start to re-think how I’d been be-ing in this world. I’d been living like a failure, living like I didn’t deserve to have nice things, living like I had… screwed up and ruined my life. But here’s the secret my friend, as long as you are still breathing, there is ALWAYS hope. And here’s another one – EVERYONE makes decisions that some may consider mistakes, and everyone who chooses to can find redemption as soon as they decide that they’re worthy of redemption.
What was required to start turning things around? I had to acknowledge where I was at, what I’d done to create my problems, and accept responsibility for my life. And I had to start believing that I was worth more and worth better. Then I just had to stop making excuses and stop beating myself up. And then it became possible for me to move away from that space that I was occupying.
Here’s the thing. If you can start to see yourself as responsible for your circumstances – and not in a beat yourself over the head sort of way – something starts to shift. Consider this. If you’re responsible for the choices that led to the crappy stuff, could it be possible that you could make different choices and create some nicer stuff? Hmmmm… and if that’s true, maybe you’re deserving of some amazing things that you haven’t been allowing into your life. Hmmmm… and if that’s true, maybe you can change things. And then, oh wow! Possibilities!
So wherever you find yourself in your life, if you’re not happy with your circumstances, are you willing to be responsible for the choices you’ve made that have led you here and start to make some changes? Like everything else, it all starts with a choice.
What do you choose?