This is very interesting to me. I set up my writing schedule in January and picked the words for each week. For the most part I’ve stuck with the schedule, including this week. What’s interesting is how many of them seem to perfectly coincide with what’s happening in my life in their week and that in almost every case, that was not planned at all when I decided to create this series.
This week, your ingredient is: Rejuvenate
As I write this week’s post, I’m in the final planning stages for facilitating my very first retreat. In fact, when this publishes, I’ll likely be packing and preparing to go away to the private cottage on the private beach that I booked several months ago (long after January when I set this schedule) when some of my coaching clients first talked to me about running a retreat. Amazing what happens when we allow things to show up and follow the paths that present themselves. I am now running 2 separate retreats over the span of 10 days, with 2 delightful groups of women who are taking some time to rest, take care of themselves, and rejuvenate. AND I get a few days by myself in that same private cottage on a private beach to rest, reflect, and rejuvenate in between. How amazing is that?
A dear friend of mine reminds me “You can’t serve from an empty bucket.” But I think what happens is that many of us – particularly many of us women – feel like it’s our job to take care of everyone around us. We’re the nurturers and the care givers, it’s traditionally been considered “Women’s Work” and it’s so deeply ingrained in us that this is supposed to be our responsibility that we sometimes forget that no one’s taking care of us.
So what can we do? The very best thing to do about this is to make self-care a top priority in your life. I know this can be tricky. When people used to talk to me about the idea that I needed to take better care of myself I must have looked completely perplexed and more than a little bit frustrated because I truly had no idea how to do that and even more because I couldn’t figure out how I could fit a single thing more into my schedule. Sound familiar?
How did that change? I got really, really clear that I was creating illness in my body because of all the stress I was putting on myself and allowing others to put on me. Then I got really clear that I would be of no use to anyone if I dropped dead. Then I made a plan to start taking better care of myself. Now I’m not going to tell you that I’m perfect at this. There are times when things get very busy in my world and when that happens, I don’t always do very well with this. But I’m a whole lot better and more conscious of it than I used to be and that is progress in the right direction.
What do you do that rejuvenates you? Bubble baths are nice, so are walks in nature. Reading a good book, meditating, eating food that nourishes your body, moving your body in a way that it enjoys… I bet I could list a hundred things if I thought about it for a few minutes but it may be totally different for you so you can make your own list. Now, how much of that do you have in your life? Are you like the hamster running on the wheel and never getting anywhere or have you figured out how to step off and do the things that recharge your body and your soul?
I know people who put a lot of their value and importance on being needed by others. The truth is that I used to be one of them. Now, I’m conscious that there are people who depend on me and I do my best not to disappoint them, but I am now a top priority in my own life and I fully intend to keep it that way. I have a limited amount of moments on this planet and with the people I care about. I choose to spend them rather than letting them pass by without my noticing.
Now, I’m off to help some amazing and beautiful creatures learn how to do the same. Yippee!! How does it get better than that??
What do you choose?